Clutter control does not come easily to all people. There is a common vocabulary used by people who are living with clutter and these words and phrases give clues to the effects of clutter on the physical, emotional, and spiritual level. A lot can be learned about the person living with clutter by listening to what they have to say when they describe their life.
Do you recognize any of the following statements or emotions from your own life?
"I feel so bogged down!"- Clutter control is not possible if you cannot move forward in your space or your life. Clutter causes you to feel stuck. You need to be able to move both physically and emotionally to let go of possessions that are tying you to the past.
"I don't know where to start." - This statement reflects an inability to focus and difficulty setting priorities or getting clarity on the most important tasks. When setting priorities is difficult procrastination often results in more delayed decisions. More delayed decisions often means accumulation of more clutter.
"I feel like I am suffocating" - This statement is very revealing on a physical, emotional, and spiritual level.
"I'm so confused."- This statement reflects the inner turmoil caused by lack of a systematic, ordered life life that has reasonably predictable outcomes.
"I don't know how it got like this."- Clutter control requires user friendly systems to control what comes in and what goes out of your space. This statement reflects a lack of a systematic approach to life's everyday processes and a belief that life's circumstances are beyond mortal control.
"I am overwhelmed." - This statement reflects the energy drain that is caused by clutter in your physical environment. Getting rid of clutter seems like a huge task when your energy has been drained.
"It is hopeless. Every time I try getting rid of clutter, it comes back." - Hopelessness can be a sign of depression. Depression has been associated with the accumulation of clutter and many clutters consider themselves to be depressed. In fact emotional impoverishment in adolescence has been linked to an inability to develop good clutter control skills.
"I can't get rid of that it belonged to my father." - Perhaps the loss of a loved one is not yet fully resolved and you still have an attachment to the object? Clutter control requires living in the present not the past or the future.
"But I think I will use it one day." - This statement expresses unwillingness to give up hopes and dreams for the future. It is difficult to achieve clutter control if you always view an item as having future future potential. Getting rid of clutter means living in the present not giving up giving up hopes and dreams for the future. Your hopes and dreams live in your heart not in inanimate objects.
"I can't get rid of that, it is still in good shape." - The belief that throwing something away is wasteful reflects a feeling that being wasteful means you are a bad person.
I can't get rid of that I paid good money for it." Perhaps you are ashamed that you made a bad purchase? No matter what you paid for it , any purchase that brings an item into your life but adds nothing of value to your life is not a good purchase. Bad purchases even happen to good people!
Listen to your own excuses and reasons why you cannot achieve organized living through clutter control.
No matter how you interpret the language of clutter one thing is for certain, words like peace, contentment, calm, and orderly will never be present in your vocabulary as long as you are living with clutter.